Why is it then? That is the question. And what do we do to ourselves when we want all of it now? We put undue stress on ourselves that we have to pay the price for later.
In high school, I wanted to know it all. I tried to be good at everything I did. I wanted to do it all without going through life.
I worked with a lady who I admired from the first day we met. I don’t think she ever knew how important she was to me. I was 18, and she was 58. Everything she did was with patience and grace.
I wanted to be just like her, but I wanted to learn it all right now. I didn’t want to wait until I was 58. That would be too old. It would be too late for me to be good at everything.
When I was 30, I met a man in the church. He taught the Sunday school class I attended. He was in his 50’s. He knew so much about God and prepared with ease. He was humble and kind. He was a physician but never held it over anyone. He was my mentor, but he never knew it.
I was so shy I couldn’t even speak up in class. I wanted to be just like my teacher. I wanted to be all he was right now. I felt like such a failure when I couldn’t even come close to the humility he radiated.
I was not kind to myself. I never gave myself time to learn. I just wanted it now. As I grew in years, I was forced to slow down just a bit. It took many years for me to catch the concept of growing and learning.
As a baby, you were not born walking. You first had to learn to roll over. Then most of you had to learn to crawl. Then next would come walking. But even when you walked, you were unsteady and fell on your bottom often.
And during all of these stages, you had to learn to eat solid food without sticking your tongue out. Then you had to learn the word NO. And you had to learn the boundaries your parents set for you.
These learning steps took place over time. You would make a step back only to move forward when you were able to grasp the rules. Then you would run fast to the next level to fall again.
It is no different when you reach adulthood and when you continue to grow in this world. You have to learn how to do new things all of your life. You had to learn to drive and do your work in a new job. You had to learn to raise your children. These things did not come naturally.
All learning and growing experiences improve over time. As you age you become more experienced in life. The mistakes you have made in the past help to shape your future. The blunders shape who you are and help you take baby steps as an adult.
You can’t change overnight. It takes years of setbacks to help you improve. It takes numerous mistakes to let you know you need or want to change. Give yourself time to become what you are destined to be. Be kind to yourself.
You can’t become an expert at anything without first doing the task over and over. It takes practice and knowledge to be good at anything you set out to do. Give yourself time to learn before you kick yourself for not being good enough.
You can’t reach new heights and soar without first growing out of a dead place. Sometimes this takes years and is a continual process. Give yourself time to develop. Be kind to yourself as you travel the road of growth.