Did I Lose My Happy!

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You peek outside to see a gorgeous sunny afternoon. The sun is shining bright, you are elated, and a big smile crosses your face. Happiness just comes naturally to you today.Did I Lose My Happy!

Maybe happiness doesn’t always come easily to you. Has happiness ever snuck away from you and you didn’t even notice? Were you tooling along smiling when one day you woke up and the smile was gone?

Did I lose my Happy?

Did I lose my happy? I began to ask myself this question. I didn’t even realize I could misplace my happy. I always pride myself on being in control of my life. I know when I am happy and when I am not!

Or did I know?

It was a time in my life when everything was going right. I loved what I was doing. I married a fantastic man. I had a close relationship with my son. I was a grandma.

I had always dreamed of being a grandma because I could feed my granddaughters ice cream, spoil them and send them back to mom and dad. They are such gorgeous babies.  It was a life I had dreamt of having.

Work

I knew my work life was hard. I worked in a large emergency room. The nursing staff was dwindling, and the patients were more demanding than ever before. I couldn’t give the type of high-quality care I once could.  I was unhappy and did not realize it.

One day, unexpectedly I had to resign from my position at work. It all happened so fast. I had a 2-week vacation for an Alaskan cruise coming up in 8 weeks. I had requested this time off a year earlier. When the time came close to my leave date, My boss informed me that I might not be granted my time off.

An Alaskan cruise is very expensive and was scheduled and paid for in full. I could not cancel this vacation. I had to princess cruise shipresign.

A new job just fell into my lap, so I put in my 4-week resignation. It was a sad day when I had to leave the people I loved. I was grieving. But as the day came closer for me to move on, I noticed my smile coming back. I was beginning to laugh at random things again. I walked with a lighter step, and the sun seemed to shine brighter.

What? Could I have been that unhappy and not noticed? I was!

Stopped laughing

Have you had times in your life when you stopped laughing, and your smile was not present? Did you start feeling older than your years? Or maybe you were tired all the time and getting up to face your day was a chore.

Your focus in life was to make it one moment at a time. You had no desire to see ahead into your future. Your goals for the future didn’t exist.

Then one day unexpectedly something changed, and you noticed a burden lifted off of your chest. For you, it may be family dynamics or work or a relationship. Regardless of the reason you suddenly realized you were unhappy and asked yourself “Did I lose my happy”

My suggestion to you and one I will also follow is to keep in touch with your inner feelings. I was in denial because I didn’t want to believe I had lost touch with my emotions.

As the poem above says, If you notice your smile has disappeared or you rarely laugh or you don’t have fun because you are too exhausted. No laughter, no smile and exhausted are all signs that you are unhappy. It does sound simplistic when stated like that.

Try to think back was there or is there a time when you moved from one moment to the next without the time to think. You went through the motions without feeling your surroundings. You lost time because everything was moving so fast.

Poem

You woke up one morning with the sun no longer shining, and your smile had faded. You may have lost your happy. Happy is that feeling inside you of contentment and well-being. Your enthusiasm for life is no longer present.

If you think;girl looking sad

while you were busy

you became too tired

while you weren’t smiling

you became too old

while you weren’t looking

happiness snuck away

Are you afraid, You lost your happy?

Don’t get so busy in life that when someone says to you “you seem unhappy.” And your response is, “What, Of course, I’m happy!”

Please feel free to leave comments below. I love to hear when you have had these feelings and how it worked out for you. I am here to assist you in any way I can.

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10 thoughts on “Did I Lose My Happy!”

  1. I have found that if I am always learning something new or striving towards something, I have less time to focus on the unhappiness. Always have a project doing something you are really interested in and you look forward to waking up in the morning! This might not work for everyone but it works pretty good for me! BUT don’t overwhelm yourself with too many projects or you become overwhelmed and frustrated and feel burned out and want to quit. (I have that shiny object syndrome!) SQUIRREL!
    Great and informative info here! Keep smiling and hang onto the happiness!

    • I shall not lose my happy again. It snuck away so quietly before. I will recognize it if it begins again. thank you for your comment. Hope your enjoyed the poetry. 

  2. Hi Laura!

    I appreciate your perspective on self awareness. I’ve been able to attain so much joy by simply being willing to see the story I tell myself, and make changes to that story both in the internal and external (as in, my situation). I’ll be leaving my job soon, which is scary, but I’ll be so happy. I had to read this article twice to really get it, but it was like two layers of a journey. I’ll keep this in mind as I go about the next few months, which will be quite turbulent.

    • Tom, thanks for your honesty and transparency in your comment. I wish all the best to you on your new journey. Facing our fear can be liberating and move us into new horizons. I will be praying for calm waters ahead.

  3. Hi Laura, Thank you for this post. Sorry to hear that your old job was so inflexible I really think employers should understand that happy employees are more efficient!
    Happiness is all about state of mind and I only realised this recently really. Before I think I was always chasing it – buying more things or getting a promotion but then I realised none of that made me happy. Now I try to choose to be happy. And I totally agree we shouldn’t ever be too busy to be happy – what’s the point!

  4. I didn’t realize at the time, but last year and earlier this year, I sort of lost my happy. I was applying for new jobs because I was dissatisfied with my current one. I kept getting either rejections or radio silence. Each rejection I got caused my smile to fade and put frustration and anger at the forefront. My dad noticed and told me that it’s ok to be upset for a while, but that I needed to let it go. I’m still at my current job, but I found a way to find my happy again and pursuing other opportunites

    • William, Your dad is right but it is hard to just let things go. We can’t see into the future so it causes us to worry. I am so happy that you have your happy back. We can’t always see it go but sure know when it is back. thanks for your comment and interest in Did I Lose My Happy?

  5. Hey Laura, I cannot believe how much I relate to your article! I feel the same way most of the time. Is not being happy one of the many excuses? I look back and had similar things happen to me as well. And at the time there were things that happened such as getting fired that didn’t make me happy then. But the lesson learned was that it was a stepping stone to get to where I am right now, retired. Things happen for a reason.
    Never be a prisoner of your past. It was just a lesson, not a life sentence. Things always work out and we should be happy through them all. Thanks!

    • Rob, Sometimes happiness just sneaks away from us. But it all works out in time. I agree everything in life is a stepping stone to something better. Thanks for the comment.

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