Are you a victim of a narcissist? The life you led is difficult for anyone to see or understand. You were made the laughing stock of all your friends. You were lied about and manipulated. Are you still in this relationship? Here I will let you know how to leave a narcissist in 7 steps. It won’t be easy, but you can do this.
According to the dictionary, the definition of a narcissist is having an excessive or erotic interest in oneself and one’s physical appearance.
This definition does not do justice to the havoc a narcissist or NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) person does to the people in their life. For this post, I will refer to a narcissist as NPD and in the male gender because most NPD people are male.
I will only touch on what an NPD is because if you are reading this post, you probably are all too aware of what this type of person is.
You may be wondering where I came up with this poem. That is a good question. It happened while making a 10-hour drive home. The poem poured out of my soul. I put it to this photo and let it sit for a couple of weeks. When I read it today, I realized it is the cry of one who needs help finding themselves after a relationship with a narcissist — one who desires the strength to break away and stay away.
An NPD is the person who always has to have the attention, interrupts others to get attention, and bring all conversation back to them, but who you are and what you need when you first start a relationship.
The NPD is the one who puts on a show for guests and friends, berates you in private, and protects his reputation at all costs. He is the person who believes his existence is most important, admires himself, believes that he is successful and powerful even when he does not have a job, and is envious of everyone while thinking everyone envies him.
He is the one who manipulates all situations and people to get what he wants and is mean, rude, and degrading when he feels his reputation is in jeopardy.
Does this sound familiar to you? I can only imagine what you have been put through at this point in your relationship. By now, you have tried to leave him three times but either didn’t make it out the door or came back when you felt you needed to take care of him. After all, you love him so much!!!
The Time Is Here, RUN.
But now you have hit the wall, and he has taken every bit of self-confidence you ever had and twisted it into an unrecognizable piece of a horrible mess. It is time to make a move and run. But exactly how do you do this?
That is what we will go over in this article. This poem is the end of the road when you finally realize that you are not with or married to Mr. Prince Charming but a self-absorbed, hateful, degrading pig.
The moment of awakening when you know that you are in a bad relationship and going to get out is the time to act.
How To Leave A Narcissist-7 Steps
1. RUN— You can’t tell the person you are going or plan to break away. You have to devise a place to live and move quickly. He will not try to make your stay comfortable on the contrary he will put you down, tell you how worthless you are and shred that tiny bit of self-confidence into a pulp. If you run, you will have him behind you before he opens his hateful mouth.
2. Break all contact—Delete his phone number, any mutual relationships and all social media accounts. This action sounds drastic, but you will begin to miss him and feel guilty after only a day or so. You will start to look for ways that he is missing you on social media and through mutual friends. If you do this, you will end up back.
3. Do not respond in any way to any word about him or any contact with him–When he finds out that you have blocked all communication, he may try to contact you. But most likely he will try to hurt you by allowing you to see how happy he is or who he is with now. Only he is significant to himself, and he has to protect his reputation no matter what.
4. Build a new life—Go for long walks by yourself to discover who you are again. Go to the store and pick out dishes or bedroom sets that you may like. By the time you have decided to leave him, he has consumed your life, and you no longer know who you are. You don’t have to buy things but rather determine what you may like and learn who you were before you met him all over again.
5. Still, do not be tempted to check in on social media or with friends to see what he is doing. As you begin to heal you may feel compelled to do this. You may believe he could start to love you again because you like who you are.
6. Never give in—do not cave and go back. I have repeated this one in different phrases in each number, but you will start believing he wants you and your life can be like it was when you first met him. After all, you believe he once loved you. Not so true. He never cared for you. He is only capable of loving himself.
7. Never, ever, ever think it is OK to see him again. He will at some point attempt to contact you and draw you back into the fold of his hateful life. Until you are completely over him, his charm and manipulation will tempt you.
When It Is Finally Over
When the day arrives that you no longer feel any twinge or emotion at the mention or thought of his name you are on your way to healing. Not yet healed but working toward recovery.
You will know this day because you can pamper yourself, hug yourself, smile at yourself and forgive yourself for all the things he put you through.
Then and only then will you be OK to move forward into the daylight of a new dawn. Now is the time when you stop begging to be turned loose from the devil’s breath instead you will be set free. Freedom comes on the wings of self-love.
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