Qualities Of A Good Person-Stop The Search For-Peace

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Life is complicated and takes a turn at every corner. We are complex beings. Our creator designed us perfectly because he can see beyond our capabilities.poem by laura. qualities of a good person

Stop the search for-peace.

So how do we find peace within the rough waters that life hands us? Yes to pray for peace is the number one answer but there is more.

I believe when we pray we need to be willing to change and find balance. Why? Because to pray and hang onto anxiety, fear and power are to negate all prayer.

Here today I want to help you see how you stop the search for-peace to find your balance and peace in a chaotic world. In the troubled times and in the peaceful times you still need to find an excellent balance to grow and learn so you can move forward. It is essential to find the qualities of a good person within yourself.

There are so many things within yourself that will try to keep you from reaching your true inner peace. I will list a few and help you find the balance you need to conquer the impossible.

To be well rounded and balanced you will need to reach the four corners of your inner self, examine these and learn to change.

The four corners include the negative and positive aspects of who you are.

Qualities of a good person-well rounded

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1. Anxiety/fear
2. Poor self-worth
3. Negative mindset
4. Stifling your dreams

Anxiety/Fear

Within yourself, you can overcome fear and anxiety. Usually, these two go hand in hand and feed off of each other.

Your fear may be real of or perceived. If it is real, you need to find a way to reach safety and not allow it to harm you anymore. I have written a few posts on how to leave a bad relationship and how to ensure your safety. You may want to take a look at a couple of these.

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Is your fear perceived from things that have happened in the past but can no longer harm you now?

To grow, you will need to realize this fear is triggering the anxiety in you. You remember how the pain felt, and it produces fear from past experiences. It will be necessary to face this fear, realize that it only produces feelings but does not cause harm in your life today.

Poor self-worth

To learn to believe in yourself is one of the most challenging tasks you will face. You have spent so much time listening to others tell you how worthless you are. It is time to renew your mind.

Take a look at the things in your life that you do well. It may take extra effort to know where you have made a difference and find the qualities of a good person. Dig deep into your soul and write down even the smallest pieces.

Maybe you clean house thoroughly, or cook well or garden well or anything at all that gives you a spark of hope even for a split second. These are the things to put on your list of who you are.

Then dig deeper and look at how you treat people. Not how people view you but how do you see yourself.

Every day look at your list and add one more good attribute of who you are. Repeat your list over and over until you renew your mind and start to see what an incredible person you are.

Negative Mindset

You can conquer your fears, and you can build your self-esteem, but if you continue to run negative thoughts through your mind you will destroy all of your progress.

To change your mind to the positive is imperative to becoming a well-rounded peaceful person. Wash your brain in good thoughts all the time. Read the word of God or read positive quotes.

When you put positive into your mind, it permeates your whole being. And when you do this continuously, it will push out the negative.

This process requires effort that I am sure you have. I know you can do this because I did it in my life.

Stifling your dreams

You may be purposefully destroying your dreams from fear of reaching them. Fear of success is just as harmful as a fear of failure.

What do you want in life? What do you dream about when you are awake and asleep? Write these down because when you have overcome what is holding you back, you can stop the search for -peace and you will reach your dreams and goals. Make it happen!

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1. Perfectionism
2. Believing you are an island
3. Inflated impressionistic view
4. No self-discipline

Yes, the positive side of you can also keep you off balance. Some people overcompensate to cover the fears and negative by over-inflating the positive.

Perfectionism

No one is perfect! When you try to be perfect at everything it is keeping you from accomplishing your goals in life.

Think of a time when you couldn’t complete a task because you had to keep going back to correct something because it wasn’t perfect. It may have taken hours or days and still wasn’t right. So eventually you gave up on that task and moved on to something else you could not complete.

Let go and allow yourself to have imperfections. An imperfect person can grow and change and reach goals to build a dream.

Believe you are an island

God put each of us on this earth together. We are never expected to go it alone. He wants us to help one another and to ask for help.

We are to build friendships and learn from the experiences of another. Search for the qualities of a good person in another, weigh out the pros and cons and choose from what you can learn.

How can you do this if you are always trying to do everything by yourself? It will be an impossible task.

Inflated impressionistic view

Now, precisely what is this impressionistic view? You are so worried about how people see you and what impression you make that paralyzes you. You can’t move forward. You do everything to look good and make people think you are someone you are not.

Again let it go. Practice doing things for yourself and not for the praise of another. Go to the store in your worst outfit. Look around and realize that most people don’t care and those who do care have the same problem you do.

Look those people in the eye and smile as if you are the happiest person in the world.

I wouldn’t suggest going to an interview like this but do exercises like this one as often as you can in a safe environment until you feel comfortable.

No Self-discipline

You are purposefully trying to destroy your inner peace and sabotage all of your hard work. You are made to have self-control and to set goals. If you don’t have goals and put down ways to reach these you mind cannot focus.

If you don’t complete everything, you can then blame your failure on something else. With a lack of self-discipline, you will not have to take responsibility for your actions.

WHOA, this last step is enormous!

How do all of these work together?

I am talking about a well-rounded peaceful person. One who can grow, achieve goals, live content within the world they have and move forward to accomplish their dreams.

I want to see you grow but not overcompensate your characteristics. I want to see you overcome the obstacles in your life so you can wake up in the morning with a cup of coffee and enjoy who you are.

To achieve the success you want you must overcome your fears, build your self-worth, renew your mind to dwell on positive thoughts and allow yourself to have dreams that you can incorporate into your life.

You must allow room for mistakes, help others and in return ask for help when needed, no longer worry about what other people think of you because you are an incredible person as you are and set goals for your life. Don’t stumble along thinking all things will work out for the best. Make it happen as you grow.

You can do this!

It doesn’t matter who you are or what you have been through in life; you can still achieve whatever it is you want. You have it within yourself to change for the better. You can search for the qualities of a good person and then you can stop the search for -peace because it will be in you and who you are.

Now when you pray and ask God to help you, he can do great work within you because you are willing to accept the change he has for you.

I do love comments and questions. All the experience you have with this subject will help others grow. So please feel free to leave me a comment or a question below. I am here to assist you in any way I can. Thank you so much for joining me and for your participation in growing and learning.

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18 thoughts on “Qualities Of A Good Person-Stop The Search For-Peace”

  1. Hi! Thank you for detailing these useful points to become well rounded and balanced.

    All are very important. But I have been impressed with two, and they are:

    1. How we manage fear can strengthen us or it can destroy us.

    2. None of us should think of himself more highly than we ought to think. We should think soberly.

    • Yes fear of success is as grave as fear of failure. Both can debilitate a person. When we place ourselves above others we are also setting ourselves up for heartache and failure. 

  2. Hi Laura, thanks so much for this insightful and self reflecting piece of writing on this blog. 

    However, I totally agree with you on this post that the major thing to do first is to stop the search for peace and be open to making mistakes and committing errors. I always have the mindset that I’m self sufficient and capable of doing everything on my own and it has really deteriorated my relationship with people as most do see me as been proud but really, I am not. I just do not feel comfortable asking for help from people. How do I learn to loose myself from this thinking?

    • Hello, about your question “How do I learn to loose myself from this thinking?”  The first thing I suggest is to pray. Then look back on the relationships you have had to see what you can learn from them. 

      Then to break free, it is essential to do the one thing you are most uncomfortable doing. Start asking for help. 

      Help may be in the form of asking a question, which you just did or asking advice in a situation. To ask for physical help is the hardest part of realizing you are not an island. 

      I have difficulties asking for physical help because I am a caregiver. 

      I hope this helps a bit — all the best to you. 

  3. Great article! I love working on self development and I believe, like you, that balance is imperative. We need to be aware of each area of development as you’ve outlined, and grow each “leg of the table” simultaneously, so that we don’t knock ourselves off centre as we grow. Thank you for sharing.

    • Josie, You are so right. You are welcome and thank you for taking the time to stop, read and comment. 

  4. Hello,

    Your post was wonderful.  Life today is so fast paced and chaotic, it can sometimes be difficult to really slow down and feel at peace.

    I think being able to look at yourself and self reflect is crutial to moving forward, especially the older we get.  We only get one chance in this life to be happy and surrounding ourselves with positive people and positive thoughts.

    Great job. This post will really help people stop and think about their own lives.

    Thank you

    Coralie

    • Surrounding ourselves with positive people is the first big step in self-improvement. It is the age old saying, you are what you surround yourself with. 

  5. This is the second thing I’ve read in two days about a positive mindset.  The article I read yesterday said that what you think about is what will happen, so if you dwell in negative thoughts, worried about negative outcomes, that’s what you will bring yourself towards.  If you think positive thoughts, focus on the positive in life and the positive for your future, that is what will happen.  Such an interesting concept.  It really made me think, because I can be a worry wart, stressing about silly stuff when I should be grateful for all I have in this world, all the love I’m surrounded by, all the people in my life, and the prosperity that is living in these beautiful United States of America!  So thank you for, once again, reminding me to keep it positive!  Whoot!

    • Babsie, Worry will rob you of peace. Positive thinking is something we all have to work on until our minds are transformed into a positive process. 

      I wish you all the best on your self-improvement road to positive thinking. 

  6. Having this sort of positive attitude is key to getting on in life, and making those around you feel brighter at the same time – unfortunately a lot of people find it hard to be positive (and I used to be one of them). 

    People tend to look backwards rather than forwards, and this will always lead to a negative vibe. My main drawback/negative emotion is lack of confidence at times – I’m wondering if you have any tips for this?

  7. Hi Laura!

    what a wonderful piece of inspiration. 

    Once upon a time, I was in the boat of those who felt really worthless, with so little self-esteem and thinking I needed someone else to be a better and happier person.

    But like you mentioned above, I learnt it was better to focus my mind on those things that I can do, that are beneficial, even if it is doing chores in my home, once I learn to focus on these positive things about myself, gradually I stopped being depressed or depending on anyone but rather improved my ability to see how positive my life can be.

    I don’t know if I am making sense with this, but all I am saying is that, really focusing on our inner self in the positive ways can help us find that peace we search for.

    It worked for me, hope it does for as many as that reads your article.

    Thanks

    • Thank you so much and yes you are making perfect sense. Thank you for your input. Every word reaches each person differently and your words will help others also. 

  8. Hi, I must say that this article is very helpful and informative. I honestly think that I am a good person but I have a problem with perfectionism. Everything I do must be perfect but sometimes it is not possible. I try to fight that but sometimes it is really hard and only I achieve is losing time. I will read the article again and hope I could follow your tips.

  9. Very thought provoking blog. I pretty much follow your advice to having a positive attitude but my greatest stumbling block is I can’t forgive myself for past mistakes.

    My life mistakes are numerous and at age 87 and disabled there is no going back and correcting them. My family and friends seem to feel I should not let the past bother me, but at this late point of life I continue to be mad at myself.

    The only help I can find is that my God is a forgiving God and I know he has forgiven me and I pray to him often to give the power to forgive myself.

    Thanks for the positive thought and advice, you are a great help to your followers.

    • Ray, thank you so much. I have a verse for you. I am sure you have read it.

      Philippians 3:13 New International Version (NIV)
      13 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead,

      With that said I believe you are benefiting in some way by holding onto the past. You believe you are not worthy to be forgiven. But you know that God does not feel this way. God makes it clear that your sins are as far from the east is to the west and he has forgotten them. So it is time for you to forgive yourself. Forgiveness is caring for yourself and showing yourself love.
      I will pray that you can let this go and forgive you.

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