The lessons learned from life determine how you deal with painful situations. In the throws of life have you felt stuck in a bottle and caught in a place with no open doors? It can be so devastating that you feel like you can’t breathe or catch your breath.
I wrote this poem because I couldn’t breathe. I put it down as a note on my phone because my husband could not understand how I felt. I can’t expect him to know what it was like to not get air into your lungs. But I could convey it better in a poem.
The lessons learned from life-stuck in a bottle
When he read, I do think he could see it a bit clearer. But because he was breathing fine, there was no way for him to have the full effect of my feelings.
I did end up in the hospital and later found it was a reaction to a medication I was taking. I can breathe now and am doing well. But as I re-read this piece, I could see how it pertains to life. I believe I have been in a situation like this one. A place where the simulation of no air was choking me, and I didn’t think I would get out of the horrible pain.
Life can place us in a safe cocoon such as this bottle. We move along day to day with safe feelings and then one day something happens. It could be anything at all because for each one of us because the lessons learned from life determine how we handle the situations we go through. These lessons and hard times are different for each of you.
One person may feel this way because they lose their job and another may feel this because they lost a child. The experiences we go through shape how the next incident feels. For instance; a person who is 22 and lived less life may have a horrendous reaction to the job loss. While a person who is 45 and had many losses would handle a job loss differently.
Everyone is different
You deal with any situation differently because you have learned and grown from the pain in your past. I hope this makes sense to you. It is hard to explain without offending someone. What I mean is a 22-year-old who has been through years of no love and abuse will deal differently than a 22-year-old who has had a functional upbringing and no significant issues in life at this point.
So, you go through each day, month and year in the bottle of safety. The walls surround you and protect you. No one can get to you. You are happy, and life is exciting and prosperous. Then one day your bubble is shattered. Something horrible gets inside the bottle, and you feel a need to get out.
Caught in the bottleneck
Because you are in a panic to get out, you start to squeeze out of the top not realizing that the bottleneck is too small to go through. But you try anyway. As you begin to rise to the top to get away from the pain inside your safe world, you realize that the neck is squeezing the air out of you.
Things look so bad that you can’t even get a breath into your lungs. Life is slipping away from you, and no one knows how you feel. You are all alone and so so scared.
You are not alone
First thing, you are not all alone. There are others who have been through the same thing you have. A reaction like this is normal. You never know what another is feeling and they don’t know what you think. The same situation will produce different actions and responses in each person.
Secondly, if you believe in God then you know he would never forsake you or leave you alone. You may not feel him, but he is there.
If God is not your savior, then you have to believe you have the determination and strength to break out the neck of that bottle you so easily allowed yourself to stay in up to this point in your life. You can not let a fear no matter how intense it is to stop you from overcoming and getting air back into your life.
Once you break out your options are broadened, and the help you can get expands. The lessons you learned from life will eventually help to heal the pain. It may never leave your memory, but you will get past it.
When you find yourself in a situation like this, remember that you are brave, courageous and strong. You have everything it takes to move past the pain and get out of the bottle. When you do, you can begin to heal. When you recover, you will breathe again.
Don’t put yourself in a bottle because it feels safe. Stay in the real world and use the lessons learned from life to get you past the next issue. Learn, and the next time you will catch your breathe and expand your lungs. It only takes one time to realize that the safety of the walls around you are holding you in and keeping you from moving on with your life.
It feels safe for a short time, but you will have to squeeze out to the bottleneck to grow and learn.
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