Your Life Choices Between Birth And Death

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We come into this world with nothing except our body and one or two parents. Some are born into love, and some struggle for love all of their lives. It is at this moment you begin to make your life choices between birth and death. Your form your character and how you live your life begins.

When a baby comes into this world, he/she will open its eyes and cry to clear its lungs. A baby will test it limits the minute it enters this world. When a newborn baby looks around you can see the awe in their eyes and unconditional trusting love.

As we grow and life progresses, we have many choices to make. These choices will form our whole life and how we awe, wonder and love purple rose on black backgroundlive it.

Functional childhood

My husband and I took a long road trip just a couple of days ago which gave me the opportunity to pick his brain. He was born into and raised by wonderful functional parents. They were there for him and guided him along the way. He was never abused and had grandparents who were involved in his life and around him almost every day while he grew up.

So naturally, I thought because of this fantastic upbringing he never had problems or a need to make choices. I saw him as the perfect person who because of love and guidance he never made bad decisions.

As we talked, he brought to light that he had made some choices that took him down the wrong path. Once he went down the other track, he had to figure out how to repair these mistakes. In reality, he is no different than I am.

Dysfunctional Childhood

I was born into a dysfunctional family. My mom was an exceptional person, but she did stay married to my dad until he passed away. Unlike my husband, I had one supportive parent and one very abusive parent. But I was given the same opportunity to make choices just as he was. I had more tough times growing up, but I was in the same world he was, and I had the equal opportunity to make good and bad choices.

I also made mistakes, but while I was making these mistakes, I was also growing. Your life choices between birth and death can help you overcome a bad situation. Do you think that because you had a hard life that you cannot become a functional person?

Remember you were born into this world with awe, and wonder and love. The people who raised you influenced this briefly as you grew up. They may have been good changes, or they may have been bad changes, but your choices are yours.

Change, grow, learn

I know it is a struggle to change. I know first hand how hard it is to grow and learn from really horrible experiences. But I did it and so can you.baby hand touching a grandma hand

Look around you for a bit. Look at the type of people there are in this world. What do you want to be in life? Do you want integrity or do you want someone else to take care of you? Do you want to be honest or do you want to deceive others to get more for yourself? Don’t compare yourself to others but instead get a good picture in your mind what you want to portray as your character.

A strong character developed out of a rough upbringing will take an effort to make the right choices. You may not have been exposed to integrity, honesty, morality, kindness, loyalty, sincerity, and love with self-control as a part of a strong personality or were you raised with character discrepancies such as arrogance, bad-tempered, conceit, cruelty, deceitfulness, dishonesty, and laziness?

You can become either of these two personality traits. You may think that if you had a horrible upbringing you have to have a weak character. NOT true!!! I had it rough. I made wrong choices and could have continued down the road to destruction, but I chose to travel the path of kindness and help others overcome their tough times.

Because of the primary choice I made to continue to grow and learn I can say I will depart this world the same as when I came into it. I choose to be in awe of the goodness of people around me. When I leave from this world, I want to have lived with unconditional love and lack of judgment. My world is full of the wonder of how incredible life can be.

Your life choices between birth and death

You can make these same choices. Just as my life has been difficult at times and I have taken the wrong road only to have to turn back, you too can do what I have done. I want to have a good character; therefore, I have worked hard to develop it. I could have taken the easy way out and become deceitful, rude, dishonest and lazy but that is not who I want to be.

When I depart from this earth, I want to leave with the same awe, wonder, and love that I had when I came into this world. I want who I am to have touched lives and helped people. I want to be an example to others. I want to let others know through my experience that they can be of good and noble character.

What will your life choices look like between birth and death that will build your character?

I am here to assist you in any way I can. Please feel free to ask questions and share your experiences in the comments below.

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21 thoughts on “Your Life Choices Between Birth And Death”

  1. A very thought provoking post. I firmly believe that one should be in command of their own life and take responsibility for their actions. It is easy to blame someone else for your failure. At age 86 I often reflect on “If I had done this I could have done that.” And think I would have but he or she did not agree. So my point is, you made the decision so don’t blame someone else. One final thought, forgive yourself for past mistakes take responsibility for not following you chosen path and live a happy, positive life with love for your friends, business partners and family.

    • Hi Ray, Very good point. We have to forgive ourselves or we can’t move forward. We can’t change the past but we can make today and the future better with a positive outlook. Thank You, Ray. Merry Christmas to you my friend. God bless you and your family.

  2. Thank you Laura for your post. It takes alot of reflection to know the roots of what shaped our being throughout the years. Whether we live in a perfect home or not , does affect our lives deeply but it is always the experiences and how we react to them which really mold our characters. Some people zoom through miseries and problems much better than others, and some people fall apart at the slightest hiccup. Upbringing, society, friends, character, and physical aspects all have a large part in creating our personalities.

    Thank you for opening up about your experiences and it is a great thing that your tough upbringing still allowed you to search and head for kindness and an open heart. Thank you for opening your page.

    All the best of luck.

    • you are so right. There are many things in life that shape us. But it is ultimately the choices we make that form who we are. Great input and thinking process. 

  3. Hello Laura, 

    Very interesting and complex the subject that you explain. If there is one thing that I am sure of, it is that we are the ones who choose the path we wish to travel. 

    We can also make wrong decisions, such as choosing bad companies, bad partners, this will mark our lives and define our future. 

    I have dealt with people with serious problems with their parents who managed to form exemplary families. 

    This also happens in vice versa. Your article has made me think and reflect different aspects of my own life. 

    Thanks for sharing. 

    Regards! Claudio

    • Claudio, I am so happy that you can reflect on your life with this post. My goal is to help everyone see ways to improve and enjoy life. 

  4. I have discovered that we most times under use our power of choice as humans, we often constrain ourself to what is termed acceptable by our parents, peers or society. I find this to be very limiting and self destructive

    Our decision either makes or Mar us; the choice is all ours and time would tell.This write up is a wake up call for me. I need to be more conscious about my actions and inaction, They all count at the end of the day.

  5. Hi Laura what an inspiring article.  There is always the argument whether the environment that you are raised in or your DNA has the most influence as to how you turn out.I believe no matter how you are raised you can make right choices.  For some those right choices will definitely be harder than others.  Your zip code when born will definitely have an influence but again the right choices can always be made but harder for some to follow through.I was raised with two loving parents but tragedy struck earlier with the loss of my mother and then my brother just two years apart.  It was difficult sometimes but I think I learned from their early deaths.

    • Maureen, the fact that you learned from a horrible tragedy like these makes you an incredible person. And your point about the up code. You are oh so right. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment. I appreciate you. 

  6. This is exactly the kind of read I needed today.  It’s my birthday today, and I find myself reflecting on the past year every time it’s my birthday.  I find it kind of funny you talk about our upbringing because I also used to blame the way I was raised with all the circumstances of my life, good or bad, until I realized that no one but me has the power to be who I want to be! 

    I also made a lot of mistakes, but somewhere back in time, I decided that it was enough to blame myself for every little thing that went wrong in my life and that my life was also my own.  From that moment on, things changed and have been improving ever since.  Like you so elegantly say, its all about our own choices!

    Great inspirational article!  Keep em coming, you site is now in my bookmarks!

    • Denis, Happy Birthday. 🎁🎊. It always warms my heart when something I write helps another such as your self. It is a revelation when we realize we can empower our own life. Thanks for book marking my site. Much appreciated. Hope your Birthday is everything you want it to be. 

  7. I’m glad that you pointed out, that even if you started at a disadvantage, you still have opportunities to make choices to lead to a better life. You still have a responsibility to do the right thing and you still have many opportunities to change your life/path. It really helps if you stop comparing yourself to others and just work to improve and make the most of what you already have.

    • Yes it is important not to compare ourselves to others. It is our life to make good. Thanks for reading and commenting.

  8. I think those who face adversity end up becoming better and wiser people in terms of their choices compared to people who don’t face adversity because of experience. I find that adversity helps you make better choices in the future because you learn not to make those bad choices in the past. I am glad you chose to respond positively despite your situations and upbringing.

    • yes adversity does help each of us grow. I do have to say that my husband even with less adversity is an incredible man. I think most of it depends on which we choose in life. Great points   Thank you. 

  9. My thinking is that we all come into this world as unique individuals who probably share some things in common. Before we truly discover our uniqueness, we go through times that make us follow other paths. The good thing is that when we feel lost we begin to search for the right way. Those who want to copy others run the risk of losing that unique self in the rubble created by others.

    I also think that it really doesn’t matter whether we have loving parents or abusive ones at birth. We have unique lessons to learn from the situations in which we are born. In speaking to your husband you discovered that even though he had a functional family, he took what he thought were wrong turns.

    This makes life really interesting. Each is on their path and the best we can do to enhance that path is to be kind and just let others be as they walk their path. That way they have less rubble to clear.

    Thank you for this wonderful post about, ‘your life’s choices between birth and death.’ It is a unique experience time frame for all of us.

    ~Danielle

    • Danielle, thank you for reading and your comment. Your take is in line with mine. Great summary of life. We all have a path to choose that will determine our destiny. 

  10. Dear Laura,

    Wow! Amazing post! I got great insight from your informative posts. Choices!

    No one can say that in his/her life he/her made the right decisions throughout his/her life, as you mentioned its all about what we are learning from our mistakes and how we correct it and become a functional person.

    I will choose the path of Love, Kindness and Helping others.

    Your post touched me and moved me. When I am reading the final paragraphs really I felt like crying. Indeed I too want to leave this world with all those things you mentioned and live a meaningful life full of Love, Kindness, Helping others etc.,

    Best wishes to you, your family and your success, 

    Warm Regards

    Paul

    • Thank you so much Paul. It does warm my heart that you can take important information to your heart and apply it to your life. And yes I too want to leave this life with love and kindness as having been a way of life for me. 

      Paul I too wish only the best to you and your family also. 

      Laura

  11. We are all different in our own ways due to the rich encounters, experiences and inborn traits. But one thing that I agree very much is to remain positive. There are 2 sides to a coin. It is the same as how we perceive the world. Being a victim of workplace bully myself, I constantly see this as an opportunity. An opportunity for me to explore the next opportunity that I normally can’t see. That’s how I survive in this world as a happy person. 

    • Yes our inborn traits and experiences do have a lot to do with who we are. But you too can learn from those traits and make choices that will move you forward and not keep you in the victim role. So many of us have or are being bullied at school and in the work place. 

      It hurts but you got this one. Grow, learn, build your confidence in other ways and rise above this workplace bully life. 

      Laura

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