We have come full circle here with 4 different ways to deal with an issue. Have we given you the best answer? I would have to say no.
The whole point is that you have to find the best way to cope. If you have used all four of these methods to solve a problem then you are more typical than the one who is telling you how you should do it.
When you are in a difficult situation, your self-esteem is already at an all-time low. For another person to come along and take advantage of this is not a person who is a good friend or someone who has the experience to tell you how to deal with issues.
Do not let another dictate how you should behave or how you should deal with issues. You have to develop your own way. When you do, it is then that you will grow and mature. The one who is telling you their way is best is the one who may not cope the best.
You can simplify, deny, be the innocent, and be suspicious all at the same time.
I got some suitable lessons learned from here, and they actually helped me to take responsibility for what’s happening with my life. I live a very stressful life with financial problems topping the list of challenges. You’re right; you can’t deny they don’t exist as the more you deny them, the more they get worse. I must take control of the situation while maintaining a positive outlook in life.
I am so happy I can help. Life is stressful, but you say you need to keep a positive outlook. That is the best way to look at everything. Life can get us down, but with the right mindset, you can tackle anything.
I feel like you wrote this article for me. I truly am in the situation of having people tell me what they would do. In my situation, it makes me feel even more conflicted because it’s not compatible with my values and personality. I, therefore, try to do what I think is best according to my make up.
Yes, you have to always do what is right for you. No one else can deal with your situation as well as you can. You hang in there. Do it your way.
This is a very provocative question you have used as the title for this article and it piqued my curiosity to read more. People deal with issues in their lives in different ways and often they either cannot accept the truth or do not want to. This is when it can be ideal to have someone that will lay out the truth and listen to you.
Most people fool themselves to a degree, it is easier than really drilling down deep to figure out what is the truth, casting aside the defense mechanisms that we all have and use. It can be easier of you have someone to bounce this process off of, but a lot of it comes down to you.
I have had well-wishers that try to add their opinions and advice even if not asked. I generally dismiss them out of hand because I know from where it is coming, it is not a genuine concern, rather there may be an agenda of their own that is behind what they may advise. Perhaps one important personal skill to develop is the ability to know the difference?
Hi Dave, Drilling down deep within ourselves is a complicated process. Most are not willing to do this, but it is necessary to lead a functional life.
Also, to know the difference between someone who is genuine and a well-wisher is hard to discern. But again, when we take a close look at what we want and need, it does get easier.
Thank you for your comment. It will be of great value for those who read this post and find their way.