Now, why would you feel lonely with people and your fur babies around? Is it OK to feel lonely even when you are happy?
Let’s look at loneliness further.
Why Are You So lonely?
What causes loneliness?
I have a girlfriend who told me I need to write about lonely. She said she feels lonely but doesn’t want to go to places or meet anyone. But at the same time, she talks about wanting someone to share her time. When she told me this I wondered “why are you so lonely?”
Is she lonely, or is she alone.
For my friend, I think she is alone because she has no companionship. Is that OK?
I believe it is OK. It is a longing to have a person to do things with and talk to throughout the day. A person you can come home to and spend the evening talking and laughing.
You want a person you can trust with your innermost desires and emotions. Most people are going to feel lonely because of a longing to fulfill their needs or wants.
What about the person who is with a partner and feels lonely? Is that OK?
If it is all the time then no, it is not OK. If it only occasionally then I would say it is a normal response to a relationship.
What about the person who feels lonely because they are not comfortable with the sound and presence of themselves. Is that OK? I would say it is not a normal process.
Let’s take a look at each one of these.
A person who experiences lonely alone is longing for a relationship. They are comfortable with themselves and like to be alone. They are independent and have lived their life to the fullest.
On the outside, they appear to have it all together. They may own their own home or live in a comfortable rental home. Inside their home, they have many decorations that speak of their character. They know who they are.
But they want a person to share their happy and sad times. Most individuals wish to have someone in their lives. They live for years by themselves, but they never stop thinking they may meet that perfect person someday.
They do not dwell on it or lose sleep over the fact that they are alone and feel lonely.
The Answer To Lonely Alone
You and I both hope that one day you will meet that perfect person to share your life. But in the meantime, it is essential to hang onto your independence. Keep your friends close and call on them when those moments become too strong.
Most of all, take your time and do not rush it or you will find yourself lonely with a partner. You don’t want to be in that situation because breaking away will leave many scars to heal.
Choose wisely. Date a person to get to know them and don’t move too fast in a relationship.
Love your furbabies with all you have because they will show you, unconditional love, when others will fail you.
Lonely With A partner
The person who is lonely on occasion with a partner may be reminiscing or may not have their needs met all of the time.
They find ways to meet their own needs, such as friendships and know that their partner can not ever meet all of their needs.
On the other hand, the person who is lonely with a partner all the time may be in a dysfunctional relationship. If you are with a partner and lonely, the other person is not taking responsibility for their part in your relationship. Which could be the answer to why are you so lonely.
Are they seeing someone else? Are they a selfish, self-serving individual who does not want to give any part of themselves to you?
A person like this is not the right partner for anyone. A relationship such as this can be abusive or border on emotional abuse.
The Answer To Lonley With A Partner
If you are lonely in a relationship all of the time, you need to re-evaluate the situation and what your needs are. Are you asking for a functional relationship and your partner cannot give it to you?
You may need to step out of this partnership to take a look at who you are and what you want in life. Also, take a look at your partner. Is it a person who is only kind to you when they are afraid of losing you or the income you provide?
After you have evaluated your reasons for feeling lonely, then it is time to take action. Yes, it sounds easy, but I know it is not.
The thing is you have what it takes to break away. If it is a dangerous situation, then there are shelters available in most places.
Plan carefully and make sure you are safe at all times.
Protect Your Safety Zone
Lonely With Themselves
If you are lonely with yourself do you lack in self-confidence? Do you have low self-esteem?
How do you view yourself? Are you worthy, and do you believe you are a contributor to the world around you?
Are you independent? Do you have strong bonds with people outside of yourself, or do you feel no one likes you or wants to be around you?
All of these questions I have asked are a sign of personal defeat. You can not be who you are because you don’t know who you are.
You have never decided what you like and what you want in life.
The Answer To Lonely With Themselves
Your loneliness may be from past abuse. Getting professional help may be the answer to pull you out of your self-deprivation. You are the one who is preventing healthy relationships. Possibly from fear or from a lack of knowledge on how to like yourself.
It is OK to be alone, but not when you are lonely because you can not accept who you are.
As well as professional help, reading positive quotes and repeating positive affirmations about yourself will also help to change your mindset.
Realize that to be alone is better any day than choosing someone who will tear your self-confidence further apart.
7- Steps To Love Yourself, Building Self-Esteem
Is Lonely, OK?
So you see to be lonely is OK and not OK. There are different levels and different reasons for the emotion.
You will have to decide if the loneliness is something you can live with, or is it a situation you need to evaluate and change?
Are you lonely? If you have a story or would like to share your experience with us, please leave it in the comments section below. I am sure I have not covered all of the reasons for loneliness and always appreciate your input.
Thank you for stopping by and please share if you feel another may need this information. I look forward to hearing from you.