Ever had a moment when you were consciously thinking about your past and remembering the good times, but all of a sudden, you become sad, and you don’t know why? This is your conscious and subconscious mind working together.
We store the things that we don’t want to remember in our subconscious minds. Later, when we least expect, these memories will show themselves but not in a clear picture. They come forth in emotions and feelings.
So you say, if this is true, how will I ever heal from past abuse if I can’t control when these memories or feelings surface?
The subconscious negative realm is exactly what we will talk about today. There are ways to retrain the subconscious mind to be positive and overcome negative thoughts or negative emotions. Sometimes we just need to understand the process and have a little push of motivation.
There are a couple of thought processes here that I will go into before we talk about how to change your subconscious mindset.
Sigmund Freud had many theories. Many of those theories are disputable today, but they did pave the way for psychologists to view the conscious and subconscious mind as we see it today.
One thought that came out of his theories is the “Freudian Slip.” He believed that when we have moments where we unintentionally speak something out loud, it is a slip of the subconscious mind.
I have done this very thing many times. Once I was standing in a group of people, and a man, my boss, talked about how women were the weaker sex. This conversation triggered my subconscious thoughts, and I blurted out, “Well, I bet you have a great marriage.” Then I immediately wondered how those words came out of my mouth.
They came from my subconscious and are known as the “Freudian Slip.” I didn’t mean to say it, but it came out anyway because of my negative feelings about men abusing women.
Reticular activating system (RAS)
At the base of the brain is a bundle of nerves called the Reticular Activating System (RAS). The RAS is a filter system for the subconscious mind. We have all heard the term “it’s like riding a bike.” Meaning that once you have learned to ride a bike, the subconscious mind stores it away, and the RAS filters that information.
When I ride my bike every morning, I look at the sunrise and don’t think about how I will ride. I automatically ride my bike without actively thinking that I will balance and peddle. That comes from my subconscious, and the RAS filters it out as important, so I can stay on my bike and not fall over while I enjoy my surroundings.
It is the same with past experiences. The RAS filters through all of the data in our subconscious and brings out the important stuff. It does not distinguish negative from positive, but instead, it brings up what we have focused on the most in our past.
So, if you have low self-esteem and focus on a negative thought pattern, the RAS will bring that pattern to your conscious through your subconscious. It is a constant loop that allows these negative thoughts to run through our minds over and over.
The RAS is connected to the subconscious mind so what the filter sees is what will run through our everyday lives.
How The Conscious And Subconscious Mind Work
Our conscious mind is the voluntary actions and thoughts we have. Our subconscious mind is the involuntary things we do and affects every part of our thought process. Even though we know our conscious mind, the subconscious mind controls our thoughts.
That is a profound revelation that what we do not know (our subconscious) is in control of every thought.
Reprogram The Subconscious Mind
We can reprogram our subconscious mind from negative to positive. Have you ever decided to be positive only to find within 5 minutes the negative thoughts are taking over again? So you try and try without any real success.
This is because you have not reprogrammed the subconscious mind. The conscious mind is only 5% of the thoughts, yet the subconscious mind is 95% of the thoughts. So how can we reprogram our past emotions so they don’t control our present-day thoughts?
Make a Conscious Decision
Before we go into reprogramming, it is important to note that we first have to make a conscious decision to change. Do you want to succeed? Do you want a life of happiness? Do you want to set yourself free?
Right now, you have tunnel vision focused on the past and what you have in your subconscious mind. When you decide to change, you are opening your mind to a broader view of your future. Set your mind on what you want, not on what you have seen in the past.
We are born to succeed, but we learn to fail. We are supposed to win, but we learn to lose. So let’s learn how to win and succeed again.
Ways to reprogram the subconscious mind
- Self affirmations
What our mind believes is what will happen in our lives. Visualization is the process of seeing what we want to happen and forming an image in our mind such as success, happiness, or peace.
When the subconscious mind repeatedly scrolls through the negative, we can change it by seeing every situation as positive. For example, if you are always beating yourself up, sit with your eyes closed and see yourself as a winner.
I’ll use pickleball as an example because I love to play. When I go up against better people than I am, I often kick myself when I miss a return ball. Recently I started spending a bit of time before I go to play and see myself hitting every return.
It has worked so many times. Because of the negative filters, my subconscious mind believes I can not hit a return ball. To change, I see myself as a champion and win every time by visualizing myself as a winner.
We can use this technique for any situation in our life. We can succeed in business, in relationships, and find real happiness.
When we meditate, our mind disengages from our thoughts, the subconscious mind, and begins to reprogram.
When we are doing activities, our brain waves are constantly on high alert. With meditation, we slow these waves down. When we slow these waves down, we can access the subconscious mind and reprogram negative thoughts.
Here is a motivational video with Dr. Joe Dispenza that best explains how meditation can reprogram our lives.
Our thoughts can destroy everything we attempt to accomplish. Negative negates negative. But we can reprogram the subconscious mind to blast our lives with positive.
Self-affirmations are positive statements we say to ourselves. When I have a negative thought, I write it down, then change it to a positive statement. I make it short, so I can remember it and repeat it often.
For example: If I apply for a job but keep thinking, “I won’t get the job, and I’m not good enough.” Chances are, I won’t get the job.
I can turn this into a positive affirmation, “I am worthy,” “I am good enough,” “I am good at this job,” or “I am the best for this job.” These are all positive statements that will change how I see life.
Put All 3 Together
Take all 3 of these, visualization, meditation, and self-affirmations, and use them together. Sit in a quiet place, clear your mind, picture yourself doing what you want to accomplish, and repeat positive thoughts as you meditate.
Do this for a few minutes each day for one month. You will see a difference. This process will not transform your subconscious mind in 30 days, but you are well on your way to setting a positive habit to reprogram your subconscious.
We can all change the past and lead happy lives. But we can’t do it by allowing our subconscious mind to control our every conscious thought.
What you want, you can have, and what you have that is good, you can have more of. It is not a magic formula but a way to actively change who you are. You can do this, I am sure of it.
You can see yourself safe and happy in a new life. You can have the success you desire and excel in every aspect of your life when you actively take steps to make it happen.
Be kind to yourself and give yourself time. With patience, tenacity, and diligence, you will see results.