I wish I knew the answer. I want to make the right choices. I want to do the right thing. I wish I had the magic crystal ball.
How often do we feel this way? If only over and over again.
I wish I had the magic crystal ball
In life, it is inevitable that at times you will feel lost and inadequate at making decisions that will affect the rest of your life. At the time you decide what to do you don’t know if it is right or wrong. You do the best you can.
You find yourself wanting to talk about it because maybe someone with more experience will have the answer for you.
Talking to others doesn’t help.
When you bring it up, you get different reactions from other people. They will say, “don’t worry about it” and “just have faith.”
That is easy for them to say because you have faith and you try so hard not to worry. But the decision you make will affect yours and your family’s future, so you have to worry about it. Or you think you have to worry about it.
So, what do you do?
So, what do you do? Here we have a million-dollar question with the answer that keeps going back to “I wish I had the magic crystal ball.” That would make life so easy if we could see into the future. But we don’t, and we don’t know what is ahead.
You can have faith and give it to God. You know he will take care of you. But you keep taking the problem back when you know that is not the right thing to do.
4 processing steps to make the decision
The first thing to do is to figure out how to handle the worry that keeps clouding your judgment. Here are some suggestions;
- Reprogram; It goes back to the positive thinking process. You have to reprogram your mind to let the problem go. You don’t have to let go of the situation, but you do have to release the problem. Fill your mind with peaceful thoughts. Clear the cobwebs from your brain.
- Think logically; The situation is you have a decision to make. The problem is you are worried you will not make the right decision. So, you put the situation down on paper, weigh out the pros and cons and make a decision.
- Go with your gut feeling; Your gut feeling is usually right when you weighed the pros and cons and approached the situation logically.
- Trust yourself; Don’t go back and rethink your choice. You trust yourself to make the best of what is ahead of you without the thought of what if. What if I mess up? What if I’m not supposed to do this? And a million more what ifs.
You have peace of mind, and your thoughts are positive. You looked at the problem logically. You engaged your gut feeling. Now you proceed with the decision. Period, that’s it! Your need for the magic crystal ball is getting farther away.
It sounds easy, but it doesn’t always feel this simple. It can be if you stick to the logical process.
But what if it isn’t the right decision? There you go again with the “what ifs.”
4 steps to handle worry
Now this subject is a tough one. Worriers are worriers, and they make it a part of their life to worry about everything. I do have a few suggestions for you.
- Occupy your mind; A busy mind is a healthy mind. When you keep busy thinking about productive things, your brain has less tendency to worry. I use my online business and writing to occupy my mind. If you have idle time try volunteering or spend more time in prayer.
- Did worry change anything; Will your anxiety change a situation. You think about something all the time. It consumes your mind. When you look at the situation has it changed because you spent so much time worrying about the outcome? NO, it did not change a thing.
- Relax, meditate and prayer; Worry produces anxiety. When you visibly relax your shoulders, your posture and calm your breathing the worry at hand has nowhere to go but away. You may need to do this action continuously until it becomes a habit.
- Set a time limit; I am not making light of a hard situation. So if you want to worry, then you have a right to do so. But why not set a time limit on it.
Decide how long you will torture yourself with worry. Will it be 5 minutes, 3 hours or a day. Don’t let it go on very long. Once you have set your limit, then sit down and worry.
Conjure up every horrible thing that can happen. Heavily dwell on the worry. When your set time is complete you, have to stop. Take a look at how you dramatized the problem and do not worry about it again.
This process works for me in numerous situations. I was amazed at how much better I feel when my time is up.
Now you have concrete ways to make a decision and stop worrying. I am sure you still wish you had a magic ball to see the future. I know I do. But that will never happen, and it is not the answer.
When faced with a decision write down the dilemma. Take a few minutes to reprogram your mind to think about it positively. Line out the pros and cons that will happen for different scenarios like if you say yes or if you say no.
Once you have set it down on paper with the pros and cons check your gut feeling. What does it tell you to do?
And above all trust yourself to make the best decision for the moment at hand.
The magic crystal ball would still be fun, but it is not a logical answer to your situation.
As for worry, you have to stop. It is a counterproductive process. Find something to occupy your thoughts and something to do with your mind. Your anxiety will not change the outcome of anything so practice relaxing.
If you need to worry then only do it for an allotted amount of time. When your time is up let it go.
Sit down with my suggestion and work through each step. I am sure you will find it much easier to make a decision that you can feel good about and stand by. Now throw that wish for the magic crystal ball out the door because it will only create more problems for you.
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